Comments on: Take a Stand http://tmav.wordpress.com/2008/11/25/take-a-stand/ Tue, 27 Apr 2010 01:42:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Manu http://tmav.wordpress.com/2008/11/25/take-a-stand/#comment-6 Manu Fri, 30 Jan 2009 10:38:50 +0000 http://tmav.wordpress.com/?p=75#comment-6 Thanks for the comments John. TMAV has reflected on this issue at length and is very clear that we exist as a response to men's violence. We do not condone any form of violence but our focus, for a range of reasons, is on reducing violence by males. The reality is the problem is not equal - the vast majority of violent deaths and serious injuries caused by partners in this country are men hurting and killing women and children. We fully acknowledge that many women have a serious problem with violence and men are also injured and sometimes killed by a woman... but for now we are focused on encouraging violent men to make a choice to be non-violent and encouraging boys to develop the skills, knowledge, values and support that will see them live an adult life free of violence. We have a number of men in TMAV who have been the victims of violent women and we have worked on some ideas including a safe house for men to go to in such circumstances and opportunities for mutual support in these situations. If this is a passion of yours we would encourage you to meet with us and discuss ways we could support your ideas - you will find some guys connected to TMAV very interested in these issues and keen to join others to address that issue also. Thanks for responding - we hope you stay in touch. - Manu Caddie Thanks for the comments John. TMAV has reflected on this issue at length and is very clear that we exist as a response to men’s violence. We do not condone any form of violence but our focus, for a range of reasons, is on reducing violence by males. The reality is the problem is not equal – the vast majority of violent deaths and serious injuries caused by partners in this country are men hurting and killing women and children. We fully acknowledge that many women have a serious problem with violence and men are also injured and sometimes killed by a woman… but for now we are focused on encouraging violent men to make a choice to be non-violent and encouraging boys to develop the skills, knowledge, values and support that will see them live an adult life free of violence. We have a number of men in TMAV who have been the victims of violent women and we have worked on some ideas including a safe house for men to go to in such circumstances and opportunities for mutual support in these situations. If this is a passion of yours we would encourage you to meet with us and discuss ways we could support your ideas – you will find some guys connected to TMAV very interested in these issues and keen to join others to address that issue also. Thanks for responding – we hope you stay in touch. – Manu Caddie

]]> By: John http://tmav.wordpress.com/2008/11/25/take-a-stand/#comment-5 John Fri, 30 Jan 2009 10:08:37 +0000 http://tmav.wordpress.com/?p=75#comment-5 I entered this site with some hope that this was an organization that treated everyone equally. Alas, I read 'What does TMAV do? We meet monthly to update each other and plan things we can do to promote alternatives to violence done by local men' ..and realized that was not the case. I support everyone's stand against violence. However, by making a statement like that discriminates against those men who have felt violence from women. I hope that tmav may reflect on this and go forward on a more equal, all encompassing footing. I am not alone, and it is not insignificant.. for it is NOT acceptable for there to be violence. None at at. Thanks for the ability to air my view. I entered this site with some hope that this was an organization that treated everyone equally. Alas, I read
‘What does TMAV do?
We meet monthly to update each other and plan things we can do to promote alternatives to violence done by local men’

..and realized that was not the case.

I support everyone’s stand against violence. However, by making a statement like that discriminates against those men who have felt violence from women.

I hope that tmav may reflect on this and go forward on a more equal, all encompassing footing. I am not alone, and it is not insignificant.. for it is NOT acceptable for there to be violence. None at at.

Thanks for the ability to air my view.

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